The Talk
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Staying connected during a fight
In the midst of an argument with someone you love, it can be near impossible to look on the bright side. But often, there is a bright side. Or at...
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Five things to remember when you don’t feel like having sex
So you don’t feel like having sex. Guess what - that’s fine. Not feeling like having sex - for any amount of time and any (or no) reason is not...
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Speaking your partner’s love language
Gary Chapman’s bestselling book ‘The Five Love Languages’ (1982) outlines his theory that each person has a primary language through which they communicate and feel love. These five love languages are still...
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Ten everyday aphrodisiacs
We’re all familiar with the quintessential aphrodisiacs; oysters, champagne, and strawberries – but what everyday foods, if any, stimulate our sexual vitality? Here’s a list of ten edible aphrodisiacs that you might...
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LBDO’s guide to postpartum sex
Pregnancy and childbirth are different for everyone. After welcoming your newborn, sex may well be the last thing on your mind. Or you might be keen to resume your regular sex...
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Aftercare and how to do it
After sex, do you ever feel vulnerable, emotional, unfulfilled or far away from your partner, even though they’re lying right next to you? Let’s talk about aftercare. Aftercare is a term...
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Five long-distance date ideas
Long-distance relationships are more common now than ever. In fact, migration statistics show that Australians are bringing more than 50,000 foreign partners to the country every year. But how do you keep close...
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Dealing with sexual rejection
Obtaining informed, enthusiastic consent before any sexual act is not just essential - it’s sexy. But what happens when consent is not forthcoming? How do we move forward without getting caught up...
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What is skin hunger?
Also known as ‘touch starvation’, skin hunger is a condition caused by a reduction or complete absence of physical touch, and the craving for human contact (no, not flesh). Human touch...
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A guide to (red hot) period sex
15% of people who menstruate will engage in their usual sexual activity on their period. (Source: Clue and Kinsey, 2020) The case against period sex has long been shrouded in...
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Why wearing socks leads to better sex
Of all the garments that can be worn during sex, socks are perhaps the most polarising. Online communities and popular culture have long poked gentle fun at those who keep...
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How to use your Essensual Vibe
Using Your Essensual Vibe Essensual Vibe is an external vibrator with targeted or broad stimulation to suit your preference. Designed in Australia and made with the highest quality Medical Grade Silicone,...
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5 ways lube improves your ability to orgasm
Lube makes it 50 percent easier for people to orgasm. (Source: Indiana University's Centre for Sexual Health) The connotations of lube have moulded in many a lover’s mind over the...
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Understanding demisexuality
Though relatively new terminology and not yet widely known and understood, demisexuality is a sexual orientation that falls on the asexuality spectrum. By definition, generally speaking, demisexuals do not feel sexually...
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Pregnancy and penetration
If you broadly assumed that penetrative sex, whether with a penis or toy, is safe while pregnant - you’d be right...ish. The simple answer is yes, but there are certain caveats,...
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Living and dealing with performance anxiety
Performance anxiety can be caused by many factors; fear that you won’t satisfy your partner sexually, poor body image, concerns surrounding the time of orgasm, fear of not orgasming, problems...
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5 ways to ask for consent
Consent has always been the most important part to sex, but in recent years, it has formed a focal point in education. While some people have (attempted) to argue it...
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What you need to know about scissoring
Scissoring used to get a bad rap. It was the butt of jokes. It was a trope used in popular culture to hyper-sexualise queer women and vulva owners. It was...
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Anal sex for beginners
These days, more and more people are trying - and loving - anal sex. Anal play can be an exciting, pleasurable addition to your sexual repertoire. And contrary to popular belief,...
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Five unexpected ways to use your vibrator
The prevalence of the vibrator in a bedroom setting – solo or partnered – has proliferated in recent years, with the orgasm-inducing, subtle rumbling of silicone offering the promise of...
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5 (more) steps to mend a broken heart
In the previous article, we talked you through five steps for mending a broken heart. The first rules were focused on the acute stages of heartbreak; giving yourself permission and...
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5 steps to mend a broken heart
If you’ve ever had a friend or loved one with a broken heart, you’re probably familiar with the conversational dead end that inevitably arrives when you try to give advice....
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When the honeymoon is over
Picture this. You’re in a long-term relationship. Your partner leans over to you in bed and presses their body against yours. You love them deeply, no doubt about it - you...
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Breaking the Taboo of Couples Therapy
Although our modern attitude towards therapy has (thankfully) become far more positive and open, attitudes towards couples therapy remain a few decades behind. Most couples don’t even get to the...
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What is a coregasm?
When you slid down the pole on the playground as a kid, did you ever turn around and climb back up? As you heaved your body upwards with the sheer...
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Breaking your dry spell: three steps to rediscovering intimacy
If you’re single in 2021, it’s probably fair to say at some point over the last year you’ve experienced a bit of a dry spell. Unsurprisingly, you’re not alone. With endless...
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Myths and misunderstandings of asexuality
Being asexual, or ‘ace’, means different things to different people. Broadly speaking, someone who’s asexual experiences little to no sexual attraction. There are, however, many ways within the Ace community...
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A conversation with sexologist Kassandra Mourikis: tackling sexual and pleasure-related shame
We chatted to Kassandra Mourikis, a Melbourne based Sexologist and the founder of Pleasure Centred Sexology about sexual and pleasure related shame.
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A beginner’s guide to intimacy
Intimacy goes beyond sex—it’s closeness, warmth, and shared connection. Whether physical, emotional, or intellectual, nurturing intimacy enriches relationships and life.
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3 intimacy building exercises to keep the spark alive in a relationship
We all had big and bold ideas for lockdown - a sourdough starter, a sewing machine, “couch to 5K”, The Kama Sutra. But as week after week of lockdown passed,...
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11 tips to get you in the mood when you’re feeling too tired for sex and intimacy
Do you ever feel too lazy, full or tired to have sex? Maybe you’ve just finished dinner and are getting into bed and the last thing you want to do...
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How to be More Mindful During Sex
We’ve all been there: in the heat of the moment, but our minds are drifting off to everything but the experience at hand. Whether it’s thoughts of our to-do lists,...
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Tips on sexting in a relationship
Sexting (sex + texting); if you’re new to the world of sexting, welcome! Sexting in its basic form involves using technology such as a mobile phone, app or email to...
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Everything you need to know about choosing the perfect lube
With so many types of lubricant available, finding the right one can feel overwhelming. This guide breaks down everything you need to know about water-based, silicone, and oil-based lubricants, along...
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When Only Yes Means Yes: A Guide to Consensual Sexual Encounters
We had the pleasure of chatting to the team at Consent Labs about the importance of greater awareness around consent, sexual harassment and assault.
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Safe Sex in a Global Pandemic: All The Questions We Should Be Asking
Look, I’ll say it. Right now is not a particularly sexy time to be alive. With everything happening in the world at the moment, you’d be forgiven for not having...