The Talk
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Wax play and massage candles 101: a beginner’s guide to LBDO Melt
If you’ve ever been curious about trying wax play or adding a massage candle to your intimate moments, you’re not alone. It’s an experience that heightens the senses and brings...
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Dating with a herpes diagnosis
Herpes is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections (STIs), yet the shame, fear and stigma remains. Up to 80% of Australian adults carry HSV1 (oral herpes or cold...
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When cheating hurts: how to heal
Dealing with romantic betrayal can feel overwhelming, confusing and painful. It’s natural to feel a deep sense of loss, and to start questioning your judgement and self-worth. It’s a tough...
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A beginner’s guide to doms & subs
Curious about exploring BDSM or wondering if a dom/sub dynamic might be for you? Diving into these power dynamics can open up new layers of pleasure you didn’t even know...
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Australia’s affirmative consent laws: what you need to know
CW: This article deals with sexual assault and may be triggering for some readers. If there’s one thing we take seriously, it’s consent. Anything less than an enthusiastic, informed and...
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A comprehensive guide to anal douching: quick clean vs deep clean (part 2)
In our comprehensive guide to anal douching Part 1, we explored the structure of the colon, different types of douches, and some pro tips to stay safe while making douching...
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A comprehensive guide to anal douching: pro tips and types of douches (part 1)
While anal sex and anal play can be incredibly pleasurable, it’s important to note that, unless you’re into scat (which involves sexual arousal and pleasure from faeces), douching is a...
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7 reasons to see a sexologist
Let us draw the blinds and shed some light on the mystery of sexology. What can a sexologist actually help you with? What even is sexology?
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Six audio porn resources for self-pleasure and intimacy
We’ve all heard the hackneyed phrase: the brain is our biggest sexual organ. Reluctantly, we have to admit, it’s true. We engage our imagination all the time in fantasies, sexting,...
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Bacterial vaginosis
If you have a vagina, you’ve probably experienced vaginal discomfort. Maybe you know enough to recognise the symptoms of thrush and cystitis. But if there’s something fishy going on down there, and...
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Can you really break a penis?
What do Sloane from Grey’s Anatomy, Schmidt from the New Girl and Johnny Knoxville from real life all have in common? Their broken penises, of course. The spectre of this grim-sounding injury...
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You might be wrong about herpes
You’ve probably heard about herpes before from sex-ed classes, tasteless jokes on TV, or your annual check-up – but do you really understand what it’s like to live with this...
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Kama Sutra: a guide to the art of pleasure
The Kama Sutra has captivated the erotic imagination of the west for centuries, but illustrations of spectacular sexual gymnastics are just a fraction of what this ancient Sanskrit text has...
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Coitus interruptus: let’s talk about the pull-out method
From the earliest records of human civilization, people have sought ways to control their fertility. It is believed that even our ancestors, in their resourcefulness, recognized the connection between sexual...
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Debunking the ‘Winning Sperm’
Ah, the thrilling race of conception! That exhilarating competition between male gametes. At the shot of the starting pistol, hundreds of millions of sperm spring from the starting block, jostling...
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Is period syncing real?
The concept of period syncing is kind of like magic, or manifesting, or fairies, or the way characters in the Twilight series imprint on each other. It sounds cool, it...
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Let’s talk about PCOS
It’s the most common hormonal disorder, affecting 1 in 10 women. You might well have it yourself - you certainly know someone who does. So why aren’t we talking about it...
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The 3 types of erections
The dictionary definition of ‘erection’ isn’t likely to surprise you. Generally it’s something like, “an enlarged and rigid state of the penis, typically in sexual excitement”. No crazy curveballs there. But what...
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Five things to remember when you don’t feel like having sex
So you don’t feel like having sex. Guess what - that’s fine. Not feeling like having sex - for any amount of time and any (or no) reason is not...
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Speaking your partner’s love language
Gary Chapman’s bestselling book ‘The Five Love Languages’ (1982) outlines his theory that each person has a primary language through which they communicate and feel love. These five love languages are still...
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Ten everyday aphrodisiacs
We’re all familiar with the quintessential aphrodisiacs; oysters, champagne, and strawberries – but what everyday foods, if any, stimulate our sexual vitality? Here’s a list of ten edible aphrodisiacs that you might...
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LBDO’s guide to postpartum sex
Pregnancy and childbirth are different for everyone. After welcoming your newborn, sex may well be the last thing on your mind. Or you might be keen to resume your regular sex...
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Aftercare and how to do it
After sex, do you ever feel vulnerable, emotional, unfulfilled or far away from your partner, even though they’re lying right next to you? Let’s talk about aftercare. Aftercare is a term...
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How to use your Essensual Vibe
Using Your Essensual Vibe Essensual Vibe is an external vibrator with targeted or broad stimulation to suit your preference. Designed in Australia and made with the highest quality Medical Grade Silicone,...
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5 ways lube improves your ability to orgasm
Lube makes it 50 percent easier for people to orgasm. (Source: Indiana University's Centre for Sexual Health) The connotations of lube have moulded in many a lover’s mind over the...
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Understanding demisexuality
Though relatively new terminology and not yet widely known and understood, demisexuality is a sexual orientation that falls on the asexuality spectrum. By definition, generally speaking, demisexuals do not feel sexually...
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6 ways to combat bi erasure
Bi erasure is a pervasive problem that occurs when the existence or legitimacy of bisexuality, either in general or in regard to an individual, is questioned or outright denied. Bi...
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5 ways to ask for consent
Consent has always been the most important part to sex, but in recent years, it has formed a focal point in education. While some people have (attempted) to argue it...
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What you need to know about scissoring
Scissoring used to get a bad rap. It was the butt of jokes. It was a trope used in popular culture to hyper-sexualise queer women and vulva owners. It was...
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A beginner’s guide to intimacy
Intimacy goes beyond sex—it’s closeness, warmth, and shared connection. Whether physical, emotional, or intellectual, nurturing intimacy enriches relationships and life.
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A brief history of masturbation
We find ourselves in an era championing sexual liberation—celebrating sex toys, masturbation, candid discussions, and unapologetic self-discovery. But are we as liberated as we believe?
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The anatomy of the vulva
Vulva-havers and non-havers alike, how well do you know this part of the body? It’s no secret that education around female anatomy has often been lacking, leading to widespread confusion....
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Everything you need to know about choosing the perfect lube
With so many types of lubricant available, finding the right one can feel overwhelming. This guide breaks down everything you need to know about water-based, silicone, and oil-based lubricants, along...
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When Only Yes Means Yes: A Guide to Consensual Sexual Encounters
We had the pleasure of chatting to the team at Consent Labs about the importance of greater awareness around consent, sexual harassment and assault.
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Safe Sex in a Global Pandemic: All The Questions We Should Be Asking
Look, I’ll say it. Right now is not a particularly sexy time to be alive. With everything happening in the world at the moment, you’d be forgiven for not having...
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20 Ways to Enhance Your Solo Pleasure Experience
How do you feel when you masturbate? Do you find yourself trying to get it done as quickly as possible? What if you took a few deep breaths and slowed...