Look, I’ll say it. Right now is not a particularly sexy time to be alive.

With everything happening in the world at the moment, you’d be forgiven for not prioritising intimacy. That being said, as restrictions surrounding coronavirus (COVID-19) begin to ease, the prospect of having sex might become more feasible for some people. In the interest of keeping yourself and others safe, it’s essential to ask the right questions well before you take your clothes off.

So, what questions should we be asking about safe sex amidst a global pandemic, and what should we keep in mind to minimise our risk of contracting or transmitting COVID-19?

(Before we tackle these questions, remember that updates about what we know about COVID-19 are constantly evolving, and further research is still needed. We’re also not medical experts, so please use this merely as a guide to get you thinking, and always research the latest health advice, which is subject to change as new studies emerge.)

Is COVID-19 sexually transmittable? 

COVID-19 is a highly infectious and potentially deadly respiratory disease that is transmitted through droplets. Anyone within 1.5 metres of someone infected is at risk of catching the virus through these droplets or by sharing objects that have come into contact with an infected person's saliva. So, could you catch it by having sex? Yes. Does that make it an STI? Actually, no. It is not classified as a sexually transmitted infection or disease and isn’t spread through traditional sexual contact, although some studies have shown traces of the virus in faecal matter.

There are ways to reduce the risk of contracting COVID-19 while still having sexually fulfilling experiences, but it’s crucial to note that if you make physical contact with another person, there is no guarantee of safety.

What precautions should I take with my partner?

Now more than ever, hygiene routines are of utmost importance. Thoroughly wash your hands with warm water or use hand sanitiser for at least 20 seconds, especially before and after any sexual activity.

The same goes for any sex toys or shared objects used; these should also be cleaned for at least 20 seconds with warm water or a dedicated toy cleaner.

Wearing a mask during sex would also help reduce risk (medical mask, or whatever you’re into).

Can I have multiple sexual partners?

Limiting contact with others and keeping your bubble as tight as possible is paramount to staying safe during this time. Make sure to check the government guidelines and restrictions in your area.

If you choose to have sex with someone outside your bubble, it’s best to strictly limit the number of sexual partners you have, maintain a quarantine period between partners, and avoid group sex.

So is there any entirely safe way to have sex?

Absolutely. We live in a highly advanced digital world—use that to your advantage!

There are countless technologies you can harness with a partner that don’t require being in the same location; from phone sex to video calling, sexting, and everything in between.

You can even start with a brief outdoor encounter that follows social distancing guidelines, then agree to continue your connection digitally.

Don’t forget, you are your own best sex partner! There’s never been a better time for self-exploration and getting to know your own body. You probably have more time to embrace the opportunity to pleasure yourself or try out a new solo sex toy.

Are some sex acts safer than others?

As COVID-19 can be spread through saliva and faeces, it’s best to avoid certain activities. Spitting, rimming, and kissing all come under the ‘high risk’ category for this reason. Lower-risk sexual positions include those with less face-to-face contact, such as doggy style or using a glory hole.

Of course, all regular precautions regarding STIs and unwanted pregnancies still apply, and it’s important to note that the only way to be 100% safe when having in-person sex outside of your bubble is to refrain from physical contact altogether.

When should I avoid sex entirely?

If you are experiencing any COVID-19 symptoms (such as coughing, fever, or shortness of breath), you should absolutely not engage in any sexual activity. If this is the case, you should immediately quarantine and get tested before participating in any close-contact activities at all.

Navigating intimacy during a pandemic requires thoughtful consideration and communication. By staying informed and prioritising safety, you can still explore your desires while protecting yourself and your partners. Remember, whether connecting digitally or in-person, pleasure and safety can coexist. Take care of yourself and each other.