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When cheating hurts: how to heal

When cheating hurts: how to heal

Dealing with romantic betrayal can feel overwhelming, confusing and painful. It’s natural to feel a deep sense of loss, and to start questioning your judgement and self-worth. It’s a tough space to be in. The first steps to healing after cheating can feel daunting and difficult to navigate, but they’re essential for rebuilding your sense of self and finding your way back to feeling whole again. To help you get started, here are some ways to get back on track:

Make yourself big again

When a relationship falls apart, you may feel like you’ve lost touch with yourself. Your confidence has understandably taken a hit, and it’s not unusual to feel small or disoriented. Now is the time to focus on you—on your needs, desires, and well-being. In short: Make yourself big again.

Start with something simple. Consider creating a list of all the things you’ve wanted to do for a while. Maybe it’s trying out new restaurants, reading that book that’s been sitting on your shelf, or watching films you’ve been curious about. Commit to one thing each week, or whatever feels manageable for you. If making decisions feels too hard right now, that’s okay—be gentle with yourself. Ask friends or family for help if you need it.

Feel the feelings

When a partner cheats, it’s often considered a ‘betrayal trauma’—trauma that arises when the trust you had in someone is broken. When faced with trauma, it’s natural for many of us to slip into ‘survival mode’ as a way to cope or manage our responsibilities. This might mean feeling numb and pushing your emotions aside just to get through the day.

If you’re navigating a challenging situation – like finding a new place to live while still sharing a space with your ex, leaving an unhealthy relationship, or simply trying to keep it together – survival mode is a common and understandable response. Once things start to settle, however, it’s important to allow yourself to fully process your feelings. Feeling all the feelings is crucial for healing, as suppressing emotions can sometimes lead to unhelpful behaviours (like rushing into a new relationship too quickly or turning to other distractions that may not serve you).

Consider trying therapy

Seeking out a psychologist or a sexologist to help you navigate a romantic betrayal is a really positive step. It can help you figure out whether to give your relationship another go, work through the trauma of betrayal, address any long-standing or new self-esteem issues, and prepare you for re-entering the dating scene if and when you’re ready. Many psychologists specialise in helping individuals and couples navigate trust-based and emotional connection issues and can offer support and strategies to work through these challenges. Whether you’re hoping to work on a current relationship or prepare for future ones, these specialists can provide valuable insights and tools to help you build healthier connections.

You don’t need to radiate self-love every moment to make progress. Healing after cheating – whether emotional, physical, or both – is a brave, slow, and deeply personal process. Celebrate the small victories along the way, and remember that the love you give yourself is the most important love of all.

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