Pillow Talk

Pillow Talk with Laura Miano

May 4, 2024

Our beautiful friend, Laura Miano (she/her), is one of Melbourne’s most prominent Sexologists, and the visionary behind Posmo, a sex toy concept store and pleasure project celebrating unique expressions of human sexuality.

We recently had the pleasure of sitting down with her for our latest instalment of Pillow Talk, where she shared with us everything from her experiences with sexual wellness to what’s on her nightstand.

Here's a snippet of our chat.

What's on your nightstand?

I have my Posmo Silicone Lubricant, a copy of To Be’s latest magazine issue, a chrome head massager (the shape of it is so sculptural!), a spherical frosted desk lamp and I’ll switch between Icicles no. 38 and LBDO's Essensual Vibe in stone, depending on my mood of the week.

What's the last thing you do before you go to sleep?

There is a 3 step process to falling asleep for me.

Firstly, I use my skincare to cleanse and hydrate my skin.
Secondly, I’ll brush my teeth.
Thirdly, I’ll get into bed, use my LBDO Essensual Vibe and self-pleasure through to orgasm. This always gently puts me to sleep.

Ideal date idea?

I’m a bit of a traditional girlie when it comes to dating these days! Ideally for me, on a first date he’ll send a day and time for the date during the week, and let me know he’s going to pick me up.

I’ll get myself looking cute, he’ll be on time to get me and then he’ll drive us to a sexy restaurant somewhere in the city.

We’ll drink wine, eat delicious food, have interesting conversations and there’ll be lots of subtle flirting!! We’ll share a dessert, end with a cocktail and when the bill comes, he’ll pay.

After, we’ll stroll around the city for a while, then he’ll drop me home, we have a sexy kiss in the car and he'll text me the next day to tell me he had a great time :’)

How do you take care of your sexual wellness?

Despite leading a busy life, I like to listen to guided masturbation meditations at least once a month to give myself a more intimate and meaningful self pleasure experience.

As I don’t have a long term partner, how I take care of my sexual wellness when it comes to partnered sex is that I make very considered decisions around who I am sexual with. I make sure I’ve built up trust and that there’s been enough tension and flirting to build the desire (like in my ideal first date scenario). Rather than having sex earlier on in dating, I’ve started to delay the time I have sex. I haven’t always been this way but personally it’s what works for me these days!

On top of the physical act of solo or partnered sex. I also make space for pleasure in general, whether it’s watching a sunset or mindfully applying my moisturiser after a shower. These help me to connect to myself in a more erotic way.

What’s something you wish you knew about sex when you were younger?

Sex is designed for pleasure to guide you, so if it doesn’t feel pleasurable, it’s a sign that you probably shouldn’t be having sex and there should be more time/energy invested into the steps leading up to sex. I’d also remind myself that advocating for my pleasure not only helps me but it helps my sexual partners too!

Listen to Laura's Spotify playlist here.